Narcissists in Movies, Books, Television

Clinical descriptions and personal stories don't always provide a clear picture of what and who a Narc is.
The following is a list of characters we've seen that should help folks better understand the various facets and behaviors of narcs.

This list will be ever growing, as we find more entries to add to it. For praticality, the entries are Alphabetically listed.

Everybody Loves Raymond- Raymond, Marie and Frank are typical Narcs. Robert, Amy, and Debra are their Accomodators. Accomodators aren't necessarily Enablers, since it is in the best interest of the Accomodator to 'enable' the Narc. Accomodating is a self defense reaction from living with narcs.
Accomodators learn how to accomodate the Narc's needs, as a means of protecting themselves from the retribution of the Narc.

Gone With the Wind- Scarlet O'Hara is a narc who uses manipulation to secure her own needs, and how her troubles always seem more horrorific than everyone around her.

King of Queens- Carrie and Doug are both mild narcs; Carries' Father is a pathological narc. It is the use of manipulation and trickery to secure their needs that puts them in the category of narcs. They openly discuss actions that are 'wrong' but then they find the delusions to make those Wrong Actions acceptable.

Married With Children-Peg, and Kelly are the Narcs; Al is their Accomodator, Bud is their victim for Deflation. This is another excellent 'exageration' of narcs working so hard to manipulate folks into seeing to their own needs, based on their desparation and lack of resources for supplying those needs. The childrens' antics to find food, is a great way to view narcs in their own antics to manipulate others around them.

Mosquito Coast- Harrison Ford, River Phoenix. This is a disturbing but accurate portrayal of a narc, with all the Grandiose Speeches and Dreams; the idoit savant talent; the lack of concern for those around them; the eventual paranoia and the destruction of individuals who blindly follow a narc.

Sienfeld- all of the major characters have varying degrees of narcissism. Their constant frustrations that create the comedy of the show are examples of what Narcs go through every day in trying to manipulate others to see to their needs.

The Simpsons- Homer is a narc, in that, he rarely sees to the needs of his family, and always sees to his own needs. The fact his family, always accepts him after a catastrophe accurately reflects how family members learn to Accomodate a Narc .

Sleeping with the Enemy- an accurate picture of a Physically Abusive Narc, including the obessive/compulsive tendancies, the manipulations, the over reactions and lack of real praise. However, we caution against believing this 'limited' picture of a narc. This will provide a Taste of what a narc is like, but by no means a full Meal. Mosquito Coast is more of a meal in describing the average Narc.

Will and Grace- all four main characters have varying levels of narcissism. Jack's inability to care for himself, and the need to 'rely on the kindness of friends' to see to his every need is an accurate 'exageration' of what a narc does. The difference with Jack and most narcs is that Jack isn't as malicious with his manipulations, as most narcs are.