You've Been Narced!

Here are some clues to use when determining if you've just interacted with a narc...

If you leave a conversation emotionally drained, or over wrought and you can’t ascertain why that simple conversation turned so ugly.... you’ve been narced.

If you leave a conversation where you were personally attacked, but you are more concerned about what you might have done to provoke the attack....you’ve been narced.
"Oh my gosh, that was brutal. What did I do to provoke that person? How can I make it up to them?"

If you leave an argument where the smallest of your statements receives an overly aggressive reaction... ie... over reaction... you’ve been narced.
"Oh, the cover art is green and blue, not pink and yellow, like you suggested. I spent hours looking for that cover art, only to realize... it was on my desk the whole time."
And the Narc launches into a tirade that would make Stalin quiver.

If you’ve had an argument or disagreement in which the other person refuses to accept responsibility for their role in the conflict... you’ve been narced.

If this argument continues to rage, and the other person refuses to acquiesce and offer their apologies, after you offer yours... ie... they have no compassion for you and your hurt feelings in this conflict... you’ve been narced.

If you’ve had an argument, that you did not start, but the other person continues to hold you responsible for it... ie... denying they had any part in creating the conflict... you’ve been narced.

If you have a moment sometime later, days, weeks, hours... where you are in the shower or fixing dinner and you realize that YOU did NOTHING wrong to provoke an attack... you’ve been narced.

If you leave a conversation where you are dumbstruck and are questioning the logic of the other person, you’ve been narced.
"The man is stupid to believe that will ever work!"

If you have ever made the statement, that woman acts like a spoiled brat! Or that man is like an overgrown child!... you’ve been narced.

If you leave a conversation where you question your own memory, because what the other person vehemently professes, is the complete opposite of what you remember happening... you’ve been narced.

When someone accuses you of something that you would never do- and their accusation hurts you deeply, you’ve been narced, because they have done that very thing and needed you to be the scapegoat.

If you leave a meeting in which you’ve agreed to do something against your better judgement, you’ve been narced.

If you leave a conflict resolution meeting in which you had all the documentation to verify your side of the story, but your concerns were not addressed, and you received no satisfaction and instead, have agreed to shoulder more responsibility to make sure this injustice never happens again.... you’ve been narced.

If you leave an argument in which the other person is so entrenched in their point of view, that they question your sanity for not agreeing with them.... you’ve been narced.