Carefully Constructed Universes

Through machinations and manipulations ALL Narcs create a universe around them to see to their needs. Most of the time, this universe is not well defined, nor is there really any means of actually identifying that universe, until one gets stuck in it.

However, there are Narcs who possessed enough intellect to physically construct a Universe around themselves. Jonestown, & the Branch Davidians are excellent examples of Narc-created Universes.

We have no doubts that Jim Jones and David Koresh were pathological narcissists. They were able to successfully construct a Universe that would cater to their own emotional and physical needs, and then deluded others to join them in that universe, as their slaves.

In these cases, the Narcs chose precepts of Religion as the building blocks for their Universe, including establishing themselves as gods of the universe.

With the Cult of Personality tactics, hypnotizing/manipulations, they each were able to convince people to do things, they normally would never do- such as taking their own lives, and the lives of their children.

Adolf Hitler is another one to create a Universe that catered to his needs. By surrounding himself with people who exhibited similar behavioral patterns as himself, he efficiently created a wall of humans to keep him seated as god of his Universe and protected from the outside forces that would remove him.

Carefully Constructed Universes in Entertainment

In an episode of "King of Queens," the main character created an innovative Universe to see to all his needs.

Doug had an Upstairs Wife and a Downstairs Wife, in which his real wife stayed upstairs and took care of his sexual needs, while a friend stayed downstairs to see to his dietary and validation needs (she fixed meals and talked with him while he ate.) This worked just fine until the two wives crossed paths.

Jerry Seinfeld created an ‘insular’ universe where he could stand on stage and get validation from those ‘below’ him in the audience, and yet, the folks watching him were not allowed to join him- as equals- on stage. (Coming Soon: Narcissistic Characters in Fiction or Entertainment)

Ray Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), created his perfect universe by moving his family across the street from his parents. Since his wife was a strong individual, Ray needed the ‘reinforcement’ of his Narc Parents to sufficiently keep his wife distracted from his mistakes. By keeping Debra focused on dismissing remarks from his mother and the disrespect from his father, she wouldn’t consider Ray’s "Ds’ nearly as bad, thus, deflecting his responsibilities off him.

Personal Experience with Carefully Constructed Universes

The Family Vacation

The Parents established one week a year that the whole family would go on vacation together. There was no discussion. Both Narc parents used their personal manipulation to ‘encourage’ their children to come: the father was excited like a child with toy, and the mother used guilt and martyr card.

Each parent had needs, and as narcs had learned how to see to each other’s needs, and still have their own needs met.

The Narc Father always wanted an Outdoor Vacation, so the Narc Mother demanded Indoor accommodations.

The Father wanted his wife come along to cook and clean for the men, so the Mother demanded the week must include Mother’s day, as a manipulative means of getting ALL of her children to attend the Vacation. With Indoor Accommodations- the Girls would not have an excuse to stay at home.

Every year, the family would travel to various Lodges- where the women would have creature comforts of home, but the men would be near hunting, fishing, or other outdoor activities.
Every year, the men and boys would spend a Glorious Week having fun. Every year, the Martyr Mother would stay in the lodge slaving over the cooking and cleaning, so she would have ‘debts’ to hold over her ‘boys.’ The Girls could not get the Mother to leave and go shopping in the various towns, or find entertaining activities for the ladies to do. No. The Mother stayed at the lodge, and through disapproving, hateful remarks, forced the daughters and daughters in law to stay at the lodge to keep her company. The Girls got to sit around and watch the mother, since helping would steal admiration and appreciation away from the Mother.

For One Week a year, these Narcs had a perfectly constructed universe in which they were gods.
Another huge Family of mild Narcs always had the Family Reunion, the weekend of Father’s Day, to honor the Patriarchal great grand father. This was another event held outdoors, with camping tents, and sleeping bags, and the women would have nothing to do, but sit around waiting to serve the men and children. The in-laws of the family rarely got to see their fathers on Father’s Day, because of this annual tradition.

Carefully Constructed Universes part 2