2. Fantasies of Success, Power, Brilliance, Beauty

2. Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.

Although this is accurate, the ways in which Narcs put this into practical application don’t appear this obvious. They don't sit around day dreaming about what they want, like the clinical definition suggests.

The narcs around us exaggerate what they have accomplished or what they hope to accomplish- as achievements that are extraordinary and spectacular. Their every day accomplishments are worthy of special acknowledgments. Any major success achieved by a group they belong to, the Narc should get a Nobel Prize, because the success would not have happened without them.

This also manifests with negative reactions, too. Narcs will become infuriated when:
the smallest of their accomplishments are not recognized, or not treated as grandiose as they want; as well as, if there is the slightest hint that they have done something wrong or their methods are not the only or best answer.

A common means of achieving the Grandiosity they want, is to create their own Universe and everyone who tries to interact within that Universe must abide by the rules that the Narc god creates. This is probably the most twisted element of Narcissism for Normals to deal with.

The Narc ‘creates’ this universe by hinting at behaviors, and expectations they want from those around them; there are very specific transgressions they will not tolerate-but they only react when someone mistakenly transgresses.

The people residing in a Narc’s Universe rarely know what the Rules are; they just learn what NOT to do from a torrent of corrective measures exacted by the Narc.

Normals stay within this Universe, because the Narcs makes the Universe very attractive, either with charm and sexuality or other types of ‘assets’ both tangible and emotional.

Narcs are masters at creating universes where they can deceive Normals into believe that the Good outweighs the Bad.

I have devoted an entire post on Carefully Constructed Universes.

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