5. Sense of Entitlement

5. Have a sense of entitlement-
Translation: They expect automatic compliance with their wishes or especially favorable treatment, such as thinking that they should always be able to go first; or that other people should stop whatever they're doing to accommodate the narcissist, and may react with hurt or rage when these expectations are not met.

One Narc in our family will interrupt activities, regardless how important that activity is- even if that activity is something the narc required- and demand attention to make the Narc feel loved, and appreciated.

This Narc complained and cajoled and questioned when a chore would be done, so they could enjoy the end results. The Narc DID NOT volunteer to help; the work was drudgery and way beneath her, but the Narc would be first in line to reap the benefits.

On the weekend the chore was to be completed, the Narc decided to do some of her own chores that had been neglected for months. The Narc couldn’t stop themselves: even though the Normal was doing exactly what the Narc wanted; she still needed validation and appreciation and input for her own chores. She even admitted, “I know I’m interrupting you from this important task & I am so glad you are finally getting it done, but I need you to look at my work and make sure my vision is good enough for you.”

We are not as skillful as a Narc in choosing phrases and words, so the conversation above is rather obvious. But this is, at least, an illustration of what they will do.

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