8. Envious or Others Envy them

8. Narcissists are often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him.

For the narcs in our circle, this manifests in subtle ways.

One narc will tease others with what they have and the other’s don’t: like a child singing, "Look what I got, look what I got. I bet you wished you had this."

Another Narc will go on and on and on about the virtues of something they own, or did, or a project they are working with, to illicit any sort of positive reenforcement that they can turn into envy. ‘My supervisor is so envious of me and my accomplishments. Why else would he only say ‘thank you’ for all my hard work and sacrifice?"
While the Normal coworkers are thinking: you stayed late one hour and got a tiny paper cut and that is your definition of hard work and sacrifice?! How can you make the leap from the Boss saying an obligatory "thanks" that you demanded, to him being envious of you?

Other manifestations involve the Narc ‘misinterpreting’ actions or statements to mean envy on the part of the other person.
"Did you see how envious she is of my new hand bag and matching shoes?"
And the Normal Car Pool members are thinking...She said she liked the color, but she didn’t buy them, because they were too expensive for their shoddy materials. How is that envy?

Another narc uses his contempt to dismiss the value of others, in order to boost his own value. "Can you believe that excessive celebration for merely finishing the proposal on time. What is this world coming to, when you have to get a cake for doing your *bleep* job!"

While the Normals are thinking one of two things:
Equals and Bosses would think: You self serving *bleep.* The client requested last minute changes, that Jane incorporated into the proposal in a matter of hours, when it took you weeks to get your small part completed.
Subordinates would think: Crap! What do you have to do to please this guy?!

Finally, Narcs will ‘invent or contrive’ reasons for others to be envious of them. They will study something to become an expert, and then find ways of introducing that expertise into as many conversations as they can. They make unbelievable leaps in logic to correlate their Expertise into the topic or problem at hand.

One narc read books and books of Trivia Facts, just so he could impress folks with his knowledge of the obscure. He could tell you what type of tea you were drinking, and from what region of outer Mongolia it came from, and could introduce that fact into a conversation when someone innocently remarked, "What does that have to do with the price of tea in China?"

Another narc memorized all the product identification numbers of her company. She won’t memorize her family’s phone numbers, but could tell you every product id number of close to 1000 products. While this wouldn’t impress her family, it did impress her supervisors.

In advanced and severe cases of NPD, this ‘envy’ will translate into severe paranoia.

Mental Health Care professionals lament trying to work with these types of Narcs- the Paranoid Narcs. My friend lives across the street from a Paranoid Narc, and the whole block breathes a sigh of relief for every month they don't have to deal with cops on their block from some paranoid insanity this man has done.

This level of NPD is dangerous and no one, without specialized training, should even try to interact with these types of Narcs. This is the level of narc that will physically act on their delusions and paranoias.

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