In general, we are not worried about our Nation under this President, no matter if is he truly Muslim, Fascist, Marxist or Socialist. We’re not worried, because Narcs can't help themselves. They ALWAYS ALWAYS self destruct. Not intentionally, but they always self destruct.
They get so caught up in their own Delusions, that they loose track of the truth and reality, And THAT is their down fall. They continue to speak 'their' interpretation of the truth, which everyone else will see as a lie. OR, in Obama's case, he will continue to speak to how great his vision is, and there won't be enough staff to scurry around making those visions into reality and his grandiose plans/administration all falls apart. Just like his health care package....
Regardless the path, the end destination is always the same: their scam is uncovered and they must move onto the next victims, or their victims disengage out of self preservation.
The D List Tactics work amazingly well on a personal level where individuals can be manipulated. However, on a grand scale like the USA, there are too many critically thinking, intelligent, rational people who will see through the masquerade and won’t have anything to Loose by exposing the delusions. On a personal level, loved ones learn to NEVER hold the Narc Accountable, because their retaliatory explosion will be devastating; that simply isn’t the case on the scale of an entire nation.
I’ve read so many folks are terrified of what Obama would do to ‘punish’ this nation, if we don’t blindly follow him. The possibility is there, but our lifelong experience doesn’t reflect that potential. Narcs build their self esteem on their Delusions. They spend all of their time carefully protecting and nurturing those delusions, both in themselves and others. They don’t have the emotional capabilities to build new delusions in others; their final act of defiance is to simply Leave. Narcs will detatch from those who no longer believe the delusions, and then disengage from the situation entirely. In those rare instances, when a narc cannot disengage... they go postal... and we do mean postal. But with Obama surrounded by law enforcement and so many people to hold the Office of President in check...an Obama retaliatory explosion would only hurt those in the immediate vicinity. Narcs loose all control of their cognitive abilities when pushed too hard; they lash out at those closest to them-in an effort to push someone into rectifying the situation that caused the explosion.
With Obama at the top of the food chain, he won't be able to use all of a narc's D List Tactics (deflect, dodge, dismiss, detour, destroy) to deceive his way out of the mess he is building. With as Fast as he is moving, and the bull in a china shop ferocity.... His presence in the White House will end with a bang... a really big bang. A Big Bang that will make Nixon's departure look like a Celebration of a Job Well Done. With what he and Pelosi have done in such a short time.... it could devastate approval ratings of the Democratic Party for a decade or more.
We have faith in God that he will see us through these difficult times. We have faith in our Nation and its People to overcome and thrive in spite of the troubles. We have no doubts that Obama is a pathological Narcissist and that psycho-pathology is much easier to predict than the weather. The one thing we can't predict is how Big the Bang, nor how fast it will come... that depends on Congress and how much pressure their Constituents place on them. Or how badly he burns the Mainstream Media... and he is setting them for a doozy.
The Moderate, Centrist, and Conservative Congressional members have way more power over the President than what they realize. Granted, that isn’t Legal Power, but psychological power. All they need to do, is their Job: Question, Doubt, Point out weaknesses, and Speak Out; we can’t emphasize that last one enough; Speak Out. Narc’s cannot tolerate any dissension against their words or ideas. Doubts, weaknesses, numbers that don’t add up, merely speaking out using simple facts will drive a Narc to the breaking point; when they loose their control, and pull really stupid stunts like ‘banning’ Fox News.
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Carefully Constructed Universes
Through machinations and manipulations ALL Narcs create a universe around them to see to their needs. Most of the time, this universe is not well defined, nor is there really any means of actually identifying that universe, until one gets stuck in it.
However, there are Narcs who possessed enough intellect to physically construct a Universe around themselves. Jonestown, & the Branch Davidians are excellent examples of Narc-created Universes.
We have no doubts that Jim Jones and David Koresh were pathological narcissists. They were able to successfully construct a Universe that would cater to their own emotional and physical needs, and then deluded others to join them in that universe, as their slaves.
In these cases, the Narcs chose precepts of Religion as the building blocks for their Universe, including establishing themselves as gods of the universe.
With the Cult of Personality tactics, hypnotizing/manipulations, they each were able to convince people to do things, they normally would never do- such as taking their own lives, and the lives of their children.
Adolf Hitler is another one to create a Universe that catered to his needs. By surrounding himself with people who exhibited similar behavioral patterns as himself, he efficiently created a wall of humans to keep him seated as god of his Universe and protected from the outside forces that would remove him.
Carefully Constructed Universes in Entertainment
In an episode of "King of Queens," the main character created an innovative Universe to see to all his needs.
Doug had an Upstairs Wife and a Downstairs Wife, in which his real wife stayed upstairs and took care of his sexual needs, while a friend stayed downstairs to see to his dietary and validation needs (she fixed meals and talked with him while he ate.) This worked just fine until the two wives crossed paths.
Jerry Seinfeld created an ‘insular’ universe where he could stand on stage and get validation from those ‘below’ him in the audience, and yet, the folks watching him were not allowed to join him- as equals- on stage. (Coming Soon: Narcissistic Characters in Fiction or Entertainment)
Ray Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), created his perfect universe by moving his family across the street from his parents. Since his wife was a strong individual, Ray needed the ‘reinforcement’ of his Narc Parents to sufficiently keep his wife distracted from his mistakes. By keeping Debra focused on dismissing remarks from his mother and the disrespect from his father, she wouldn’t consider Ray’s "Ds’ nearly as bad, thus, deflecting his responsibilities off him.
Personal Experience with Carefully Constructed Universes
The Family Vacation
The Parents established one week a year that the whole family would go on vacation together. There was no discussion. Both Narc parents used their personal manipulation to ‘encourage’ their children to come: the father was excited like a child with toy, and the mother used guilt and martyr card.
Each parent had needs, and as narcs had learned how to see to each other’s needs, and still have their own needs met.
The Narc Father always wanted an Outdoor Vacation, so the Narc Mother demanded Indoor accommodations.
The Father wanted his wife come along to cook and clean for the men, so the Mother demanded the week must include Mother’s day, as a manipulative means of getting ALL of her children to attend the Vacation. With Indoor Accommodations- the Girls would not have an excuse to stay at home.
Every year, the family would travel to various Lodges- where the women would have creature comforts of home, but the men would be near hunting, fishing, or other outdoor activities.
Every year, the men and boys would spend a Glorious Week having fun. Every year, the Martyr Mother would stay in the lodge slaving over the cooking and cleaning, so she would have ‘debts’ to hold over her ‘boys.’ The Girls could not get the Mother to leave and go shopping in the various towns, or find entertaining activities for the ladies to do. No. The Mother stayed at the lodge, and through disapproving, hateful remarks, forced the daughters and daughters in law to stay at the lodge to keep her company. The Girls got to sit around and watch the mother, since helping would steal admiration and appreciation away from the Mother.
For One Week a year, these Narcs had a perfectly constructed universe in which they were gods.
Another huge Family of mild Narcs always had the Family Reunion, the weekend of Father’s Day, to honor the Patriarchal great grand father. This was another event held outdoors, with camping tents, and sleeping bags, and the women would have nothing to do, but sit around waiting to serve the men and children. The in-laws of the family rarely got to see their fathers on Father’s Day, because of this annual tradition.
Carefully Constructed Universes part 2
However, there are Narcs who possessed enough intellect to physically construct a Universe around themselves. Jonestown, & the Branch Davidians are excellent examples of Narc-created Universes.
We have no doubts that Jim Jones and David Koresh were pathological narcissists. They were able to successfully construct a Universe that would cater to their own emotional and physical needs, and then deluded others to join them in that universe, as their slaves.
In these cases, the Narcs chose precepts of Religion as the building blocks for their Universe, including establishing themselves as gods of the universe.
With the Cult of Personality tactics, hypnotizing/manipulations, they each were able to convince people to do things, they normally would never do- such as taking their own lives, and the lives of their children.
Adolf Hitler is another one to create a Universe that catered to his needs. By surrounding himself with people who exhibited similar behavioral patterns as himself, he efficiently created a wall of humans to keep him seated as god of his Universe and protected from the outside forces that would remove him.
Carefully Constructed Universes in Entertainment
In an episode of "King of Queens," the main character created an innovative Universe to see to all his needs.
Doug had an Upstairs Wife and a Downstairs Wife, in which his real wife stayed upstairs and took care of his sexual needs, while a friend stayed downstairs to see to his dietary and validation needs (she fixed meals and talked with him while he ate.) This worked just fine until the two wives crossed paths.
Jerry Seinfeld created an ‘insular’ universe where he could stand on stage and get validation from those ‘below’ him in the audience, and yet, the folks watching him were not allowed to join him- as equals- on stage. (Coming Soon: Narcissistic Characters in Fiction or Entertainment)
Ray Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond), created his perfect universe by moving his family across the street from his parents. Since his wife was a strong individual, Ray needed the ‘reinforcement’ of his Narc Parents to sufficiently keep his wife distracted from his mistakes. By keeping Debra focused on dismissing remarks from his mother and the disrespect from his father, she wouldn’t consider Ray’s "Ds’ nearly as bad, thus, deflecting his responsibilities off him.
Personal Experience with Carefully Constructed Universes
The Family Vacation
The Parents established one week a year that the whole family would go on vacation together. There was no discussion. Both Narc parents used their personal manipulation to ‘encourage’ their children to come: the father was excited like a child with toy, and the mother used guilt and martyr card.
Each parent had needs, and as narcs had learned how to see to each other’s needs, and still have their own needs met.
The Narc Father always wanted an Outdoor Vacation, so the Narc Mother demanded Indoor accommodations.
The Father wanted his wife come along to cook and clean for the men, so the Mother demanded the week must include Mother’s day, as a manipulative means of getting ALL of her children to attend the Vacation. With Indoor Accommodations- the Girls would not have an excuse to stay at home.
Every year, the family would travel to various Lodges- where the women would have creature comforts of home, but the men would be near hunting, fishing, or other outdoor activities.
Every year, the men and boys would spend a Glorious Week having fun. Every year, the Martyr Mother would stay in the lodge slaving over the cooking and cleaning, so she would have ‘debts’ to hold over her ‘boys.’ The Girls could not get the Mother to leave and go shopping in the various towns, or find entertaining activities for the ladies to do. No. The Mother stayed at the lodge, and through disapproving, hateful remarks, forced the daughters and daughters in law to stay at the lodge to keep her company. The Girls got to sit around and watch the mother, since helping would steal admiration and appreciation away from the Mother.
For One Week a year, these Narcs had a perfectly constructed universe in which they were gods.
Another huge Family of mild Narcs always had the Family Reunion, the weekend of Father’s Day, to honor the Patriarchal great grand father. This was another event held outdoors, with camping tents, and sleeping bags, and the women would have nothing to do, but sit around waiting to serve the men and children. The in-laws of the family rarely got to see their fathers on Father’s Day, because of this annual tradition.
Carefully Constructed Universes part 2
Carefully Constructed Universes- part 2
The Perfect Narcissist Universe: Online Communities
Another Narc has been an absolute Genius in creating his Universe; he built an online community targeted towards specific hobbies.
The Narc created a virtual community that had everything enthusiasts and hobbyists would want: personal storage areas, design areas to plan their next construction project, a show and tell section, an area similar to a library where members could add their resource materials, and an internal email system.
The Narc created conversation areas for members to share their experiences and educate new members with tutorials, tips & tricks.
He created an ‘all site’ search engine, so members could see all the finished projects, all the schematics, all the supplies, all the tools, all the resources, all the Show and Tells of every member within the community.
Eventually the Owner added technology to sell instructions and schematics for the members’ own creations.
The community grew incredibly fast, gaining hundreds of thousands of members within one year. The members were very vocal in the conversation area of how wonderful this site was! What a genius the Owner was to include so many features.
Eventually, the Narc let the members create their own message boards where they could discuss one topic, that was NOT centered on the general community... like favorite books or movies or television shows.
The one truly unique thing about this site, was that ALL the conversation areas were open. Anyone- at anytime- could join a conversation and add their opinions. There were no private conversations.
By the time one of us joined, it was a thriving community with well established codes of conduct and behavior. What happened in the conversation areas and message boards DID NOT adhere to the written rules and codes of conduct as created and posted by the NarcOwner, regardless, there were well established behaviors, and expectations.
The Owner would pop into conversations to add his ‘special insight’ which shouldn’t have been such a awe-inspiring incident, except the Narc Members made it a national holiday. As Narcs themselves, they believed they the Owner joined their conversations, because they were so special and deserving ( Narc Trait #3). The Owner being a Narc, enjoyed and encouraged the Admiration ( Narc Trait #4). All this excitement over the Owner joining a conversation, reenforced the Delusions of the Narcs, and deluded the Normals into believing the delusions.
I had discovered NPD only months before I joined the community, so I didn’t recognize the Behaviors for several weeks. Eventually I did, but not before I had been verbally brutalized several times by the members, and the Narc Owner himself- when I voiced my concerns about the bigotry, prejudice and potential crimes happening within the conversations.
There were blatant Double Standards where ideologies from one side were never tolerated, but those who diametrically opposed those ideologies were given free reign to be vile, vindictive, vulgar and hateful . The average conversation was a staged Defensive Situation- where the Narcs would instigate a verbal war to make themselves look the Victim. There were Disruptions and Disrespect. There was obvious Destroying and Demolishing; Drama & Discord.
As Good Little Narcs, the instigators always Denied their roles in the battles, Deflected blame onto their Victims, and Dodged all responsibility and accountability.
Other Normals would complain to the Owner about the abuse they were suffering and how these people weren’t following his rules. The Owner would at first, Dismiss the victim for misinterpreting the actions, and if they didn’t begin praising the Owner for his wisdom (Trait #4), (ie, they dared to question his authority and his ability to define what behaviors did or did not break his rules), he would punish the Complainant verbally. Lawyers- who were members just trying to enjoy a hobby- voiced warnings of potential lawsuits and crimes, but the Narc Owner ignored them. Contradicting a Narc is a cardinal sin, so he punished them with the one thing a Narc hates the most: disrespect by dismissing their opinions.
To make matters worse, the members who caused all the Drama, were the ones who were loudest in singing the Owner’s praises. They were the ones who started financial donation drives to help the owner buy new equipment- so there would be plenty of room for the enormous database of the members’ belongings. They were the ones who would plant the idea in conversations that everyone should donate even more money to the site. The most Abusive members were the Narcgod’s best supporters, and most rabid- uh avid- fans.
Eventually, Normals learned to create their own conversation areas and did not wander into other conversations. When the Normals left the Narcs’ conversations, the Narcs had no one to Deflate & Diminish. Consequentially, the Narcs began roam all the conversation areas like marauders looking for excuses to Disrupt, Dismiss, Disrespect, and create Defensive Situations, so that Normals could be Demolished and Destroyed for the Narcs’ gratification.
Slowly, the Normals learned to ignore the Narc Disruptions or delete their truly vile hate speech. Of course, empowering the Normals to ignore a Narc, is a great insult: it denies folks the honor of being brutalized by a Narc- so when a Narc is ignored... literally... all hell breaks loose. And to Deny a Narc the Supreme Honor of having their words immortalized forever in an online conversation (when their words are deleted)... that breaks another couple of Dante’s levels loose.
The Narc Owner received hundreds of complaints about one particular Conversation of Normals, because they were being so disrespectful and intolerant by denying the Narcs their RIGHTS to join (disrupt) all conversations. The Normal members of the Conversation explained that they got tired of being insulted and tired of the hate filled bigotry being lodged against them. They didn’t wander into other conversations and ‘flame’ the members; they stayed in their own conversation, and why can’t they just be left alone.
The Narc Owner locked the Normal’s conversation area down, and told them- under NO circumstances would they be allowed to discuss this topic- in their own group- any where else on His Site. HE defines hate speech at his site; and the Normals were expressing hate, by not allowing others to participate. The Narcgod determined who had broken rules and who hadn’t; all conversations are Open and denying folks the right to speak was violating his rules. According to the Narcgod, the Normals were spewing hate speech when they offered any opinion of his Marauders that wasn’t glowing and positive. The Marauders were protected by the 2nd Amendment, but the Normals were being hateful when they refused to tolerate the disrespect. The Narcgod enacted his Double Standards tyrannically. This is HIS site and if they don’t like it, they can go elsewhere.
Translation: If you will simply adore me and make me feel special- as I so richly deserve and as these folks did, you too, will be graced with my approval. If you cannot do that - then don’t let the door hit you on the way out.
By believing they had the right to control their own conversation, the Normals usurped the Narcgod’s power and authority over them. These members contradicted the Narc Owner by believing his followers were breaking the rules; these Normals 'selfishly' enacted punitive measures against the Narc Marauders. The Normals dared to act like worthy beings, when in truth, they were subhuman and should allow his followers to verbally rape and brutalize them at any time.
The Narc Owner was so skillful in crafting his own Universe and through years of typical Narc Responses (selective praise and overreacted punishment), he had deluded these Normals into believing that He was their supreme director online. They actually asked his permission to take their conversation elsewhere- to a private site- which he ‘graciously’ agreed to.
These poor souls were convinced that they needed his permission to participate at someone else’s site!
This group of Normals took their discussion to another private site, but continued to visit the Narcgod’s universe to enjoy the vast resources contributed by the members. This infuriated the Narcgod and his Army of Marauders. Now, they couldn’t see what the Normals were saying; they couldn’t D List the normals; their needs for validation and admiration were being thwarted, so the Marauders complained even louder.
The Narcgod didn’t really want the Normals to take their conversation elsewhere; he wanted them to do exactly what he needed: provide fodder for his Army of Narcs; and to not only tolerate, but support the Army’s need to brutalize Normals. The Narcgod truly needed the Normals to Do What He Said, and he counted on the Delusions of his Universe to keep them in the site and providing victims for his Army.
He never saw the consequences of forcing the Normals to take their conversation elsewhere and, he couldn’t tolerate anyone being so disrespectful- by simply enjoying a conversation outside his Universe. His universe is the only happy place and anyone not miserable outside his universe, is the vilest of humans. Eventually, he did what every Narc does when completely confounded: he disengaged... by banning them from his universe. His Marauders went out onto the internet to spew their vile opinions where ever these poor souls chose to voice their frustration over the situation. Yes, the Narc Marauders so enjoyed and needed the Demolishing, that they cyber stalked and cyber bullied these Normals- as is their 'delusional' right.
There are more details in this example, because there is a higher probability of individuals falling victim to this type of Narcissistic Universe, and not realize it until they have been brutalized and raped verbally. This is an area of great concern, since folks cannot tell which Narcs are the paranoid variety and are capable of physically acting on their frustrations.
In Conclusion....
Now this makes this Narcs sound evil, but that is the philisophical conundrum of Narcs: nothing they do is consciously evil; they aren't trying to hurt folks- for the sake of hurting others. All their actions are self defense mechanisims or survival techniques that secure their needs. The unfortunate fact is: Narcs have discovered that the Evil Methods work eaiser.
Narcs are clearly aware of Right and Wrong, but they rarely see their own actions as Wrong. How can society clearly hold these individuals accountable, when they are emotionally and logically handicapped? I'm not saying we shouldn't hold them accountable; our difficult task is HOW to hold them accountable?
TS Elliot wrote:
The last mistake is the greatest treason,
To do the Right thing, but for the wrong reason.
Would not the same be true for Wrongs? The problem here is Motivation; when is an action Wrong- if the motivation isn't necessarily wrong?
We bring these questions up, to help others re-think their personal approach to dealing with Narcs. Retribution and Revenge have never worked for us; and the books by mental health professionals echo this. Those are Wrongs with Right Motiviations.... Narcs use that approach for their very survival, so they are Masters of it.
Normals will always fail, when they try to play a Narc's Game according to the Narc Rules of Engagement. Emotions are the Narc Tools of Success; Normals must be in complete control of their own emotions, or they will loose to a Narc everytime.
To survive with Narcs, one must learn to Pity them and see them as handicapped children. When one begins to see their actions in their true light: as the desparation of a ill equiped child- one can learn to remain in control of one's emotions, and thwart the Narc's manipulations.
Another Narc has been an absolute Genius in creating his Universe; he built an online community targeted towards specific hobbies.
The Narc created a virtual community that had everything enthusiasts and hobbyists would want: personal storage areas, design areas to plan their next construction project, a show and tell section, an area similar to a library where members could add their resource materials, and an internal email system.
The Narc created conversation areas for members to share their experiences and educate new members with tutorials, tips & tricks.
He created an ‘all site’ search engine, so members could see all the finished projects, all the schematics, all the supplies, all the tools, all the resources, all the Show and Tells of every member within the community.
Eventually the Owner added technology to sell instructions and schematics for the members’ own creations.
The community grew incredibly fast, gaining hundreds of thousands of members within one year. The members were very vocal in the conversation area of how wonderful this site was! What a genius the Owner was to include so many features.
Eventually, the Narc let the members create their own message boards where they could discuss one topic, that was NOT centered on the general community... like favorite books or movies or television shows.
The one truly unique thing about this site, was that ALL the conversation areas were open. Anyone- at anytime- could join a conversation and add their opinions. There were no private conversations.
By the time one of us joined, it was a thriving community with well established codes of conduct and behavior. What happened in the conversation areas and message boards DID NOT adhere to the written rules and codes of conduct as created and posted by the NarcOwner, regardless, there were well established behaviors, and expectations.
The Owner would pop into conversations to add his ‘special insight’ which shouldn’t have been such a awe-inspiring incident, except the Narc Members made it a national holiday. As Narcs themselves, they believed they the Owner joined their conversations, because they were so special and deserving ( Narc Trait #3). The Owner being a Narc, enjoyed and encouraged the Admiration ( Narc Trait #4). All this excitement over the Owner joining a conversation, reenforced the Delusions of the Narcs, and deluded the Normals into believing the delusions.
I had discovered NPD only months before I joined the community, so I didn’t recognize the Behaviors for several weeks. Eventually I did, but not before I had been verbally brutalized several times by the members, and the Narc Owner himself- when I voiced my concerns about the bigotry, prejudice and potential crimes happening within the conversations.
There were blatant Double Standards where ideologies from one side were never tolerated, but those who diametrically opposed those ideologies were given free reign to be vile, vindictive, vulgar and hateful . The average conversation was a staged Defensive Situation- where the Narcs would instigate a verbal war to make themselves look the Victim. There were Disruptions and Disrespect. There was obvious Destroying and Demolishing; Drama & Discord.
As Good Little Narcs, the instigators always Denied their roles in the battles, Deflected blame onto their Victims, and Dodged all responsibility and accountability.
Other Normals would complain to the Owner about the abuse they were suffering and how these people weren’t following his rules. The Owner would at first, Dismiss the victim for misinterpreting the actions, and if they didn’t begin praising the Owner for his wisdom (Trait #4), (ie, they dared to question his authority and his ability to define what behaviors did or did not break his rules), he would punish the Complainant verbally. Lawyers- who were members just trying to enjoy a hobby- voiced warnings of potential lawsuits and crimes, but the Narc Owner ignored them. Contradicting a Narc is a cardinal sin, so he punished them with the one thing a Narc hates the most: disrespect by dismissing their opinions.
To make matters worse, the members who caused all the Drama, were the ones who were loudest in singing the Owner’s praises. They were the ones who started financial donation drives to help the owner buy new equipment- so there would be plenty of room for the enormous database of the members’ belongings. They were the ones who would plant the idea in conversations that everyone should donate even more money to the site. The most Abusive members were the Narcgod’s best supporters, and most rabid- uh avid- fans.
Eventually, Normals learned to create their own conversation areas and did not wander into other conversations. When the Normals left the Narcs’ conversations, the Narcs had no one to Deflate & Diminish. Consequentially, the Narcs began roam all the conversation areas like marauders looking for excuses to Disrupt, Dismiss, Disrespect, and create Defensive Situations, so that Normals could be Demolished and Destroyed for the Narcs’ gratification.
Slowly, the Normals learned to ignore the Narc Disruptions or delete their truly vile hate speech. Of course, empowering the Normals to ignore a Narc, is a great insult: it denies folks the honor of being brutalized by a Narc- so when a Narc is ignored... literally... all hell breaks loose. And to Deny a Narc the Supreme Honor of having their words immortalized forever in an online conversation (when their words are deleted)... that breaks another couple of Dante’s levels loose.
The Narc Owner received hundreds of complaints about one particular Conversation of Normals, because they were being so disrespectful and intolerant by denying the Narcs their RIGHTS to join (disrupt) all conversations. The Normal members of the Conversation explained that they got tired of being insulted and tired of the hate filled bigotry being lodged against them. They didn’t wander into other conversations and ‘flame’ the members; they stayed in their own conversation, and why can’t they just be left alone.
The Narc Owner locked the Normal’s conversation area down, and told them- under NO circumstances would they be allowed to discuss this topic- in their own group- any where else on His Site. HE defines hate speech at his site; and the Normals were expressing hate, by not allowing others to participate. The Narcgod determined who had broken rules and who hadn’t; all conversations are Open and denying folks the right to speak was violating his rules. According to the Narcgod, the Normals were spewing hate speech when they offered any opinion of his Marauders that wasn’t glowing and positive. The Marauders were protected by the 2nd Amendment, but the Normals were being hateful when they refused to tolerate the disrespect. The Narcgod enacted his Double Standards tyrannically. This is HIS site and if they don’t like it, they can go elsewhere.
Translation: If you will simply adore me and make me feel special- as I so richly deserve and as these folks did, you too, will be graced with my approval. If you cannot do that - then don’t let the door hit you on the way out.
By believing they had the right to control their own conversation, the Normals usurped the Narcgod’s power and authority over them. These members contradicted the Narc Owner by believing his followers were breaking the rules; these Normals 'selfishly' enacted punitive measures against the Narc Marauders. The Normals dared to act like worthy beings, when in truth, they were subhuman and should allow his followers to verbally rape and brutalize them at any time.
The Narc Owner was so skillful in crafting his own Universe and through years of typical Narc Responses (selective praise and overreacted punishment), he had deluded these Normals into believing that He was their supreme director online. They actually asked his permission to take their conversation elsewhere- to a private site- which he ‘graciously’ agreed to.
These poor souls were convinced that they needed his permission to participate at someone else’s site!
This group of Normals took their discussion to another private site, but continued to visit the Narcgod’s universe to enjoy the vast resources contributed by the members. This infuriated the Narcgod and his Army of Marauders. Now, they couldn’t see what the Normals were saying; they couldn’t D List the normals; their needs for validation and admiration were being thwarted, so the Marauders complained even louder.
The Narcgod didn’t really want the Normals to take their conversation elsewhere; he wanted them to do exactly what he needed: provide fodder for his Army of Narcs; and to not only tolerate, but support the Army’s need to brutalize Normals. The Narcgod truly needed the Normals to Do What He Said, and he counted on the Delusions of his Universe to keep them in the site and providing victims for his Army.
He never saw the consequences of forcing the Normals to take their conversation elsewhere and, he couldn’t tolerate anyone being so disrespectful- by simply enjoying a conversation outside his Universe. His universe is the only happy place and anyone not miserable outside his universe, is the vilest of humans. Eventually, he did what every Narc does when completely confounded: he disengaged... by banning them from his universe. His Marauders went out onto the internet to spew their vile opinions where ever these poor souls chose to voice their frustration over the situation. Yes, the Narc Marauders so enjoyed and needed the Demolishing, that they cyber stalked and cyber bullied these Normals- as is their 'delusional' right.
There are more details in this example, because there is a higher probability of individuals falling victim to this type of Narcissistic Universe, and not realize it until they have been brutalized and raped verbally. This is an area of great concern, since folks cannot tell which Narcs are the paranoid variety and are capable of physically acting on their frustrations.
In Conclusion....
Now this makes this Narcs sound evil, but that is the philisophical conundrum of Narcs: nothing they do is consciously evil; they aren't trying to hurt folks- for the sake of hurting others. All their actions are self defense mechanisims or survival techniques that secure their needs. The unfortunate fact is: Narcs have discovered that the Evil Methods work eaiser.
Narcs are clearly aware of Right and Wrong, but they rarely see their own actions as Wrong. How can society clearly hold these individuals accountable, when they are emotionally and logically handicapped? I'm not saying we shouldn't hold them accountable; our difficult task is HOW to hold them accountable?
TS Elliot wrote:
The last mistake is the greatest treason,
To do the Right thing, but for the wrong reason.
Would not the same be true for Wrongs? The problem here is Motivation; when is an action Wrong- if the motivation isn't necessarily wrong?
We bring these questions up, to help others re-think their personal approach to dealing with Narcs. Retribution and Revenge have never worked for us; and the books by mental health professionals echo this. Those are Wrongs with Right Motiviations.... Narcs use that approach for their very survival, so they are Masters of it.
Normals will always fail, when they try to play a Narc's Game according to the Narc Rules of Engagement. Emotions are the Narc Tools of Success; Normals must be in complete control of their own emotions, or they will loose to a Narc everytime.
To survive with Narcs, one must learn to Pity them and see them as handicapped children. When one begins to see their actions in their true light: as the desparation of a ill equiped child- one can learn to remain in control of one's emotions, and thwart the Narc's manipulations.
Thursday, April 2, 2009
General Behaviors of NPD
Mental Health Professionals have a specific set of behaviors that they use to diagnose NPD.
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition, 1994
We have taken their list, and added personal experiences to them, to give our readers a realistic view of Narcissists (Narcs for short.)
Our greatest online Resource is:
Narcissitic PersonalityDisorder
The insights at this site have helped us to further develop our list of NPD Behaviors; from there we have developed strategies for coping and living with Narcs.
Click on each Behavior for descriptions, and examples of these behaviors.
Grandiosity
Fantasies of Success, Power, Brilliance
Better than Everyone Else
Need Excessive Admiration
A Sense of Entitlement
Selfishly Uses Others
No Empathy or Compassion
Lots of Envy to Go Around
Arrogant, Haughty & Contemptuous
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition, 1994
We have taken their list, and added personal experiences to them, to give our readers a realistic view of Narcissists (Narcs for short.)
Our greatest online Resource is:
Narcissitic PersonalityDisorder
The insights at this site have helped us to further develop our list of NPD Behaviors; from there we have developed strategies for coping and living with Narcs.
Click on each Behavior for descriptions, and examples of these behaviors.
Grandiosity
Fantasies of Success, Power, Brilliance
Better than Everyone Else
Need Excessive Admiration
A Sense of Entitlement
Selfishly Uses Others
No Empathy or Compassion
Lots of Envy to Go Around
Arrogant, Haughty & Contemptuous
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Final D word- Democrat
Finally, the last D Word is Democrat. In studying and experimenting how to interact with Narcs, we began to see startling similarities to the tactics that Democrats have employed over the previous 3 elections; with the Defense Mechanisms Narcissists employ.
Dodging responsibility for the Housing/Banking Crisis by forgetting it was a Democrat that Deregulated the industry to allow anyone to get a home loan, whether they could afford it or even have a job to pay it.
Deflecting blame for the Economy Crisis the Housing Industry caused-onto the Republicans and the previous administration for spending too much money in Iraq. Obama's return to the Torture allegations against the CIA and the Bush administration is an attempt to deflect 'blame/focus on his dying Health Care Bill onto 'someone else's actions that are much more heinous than his own.' Another attempt to prevent any Disruption of the Delusions about him.
By promoting the Delusions that a Junior Senator- who has never held a leadership role in his life- is this nation’s Savior due to his Special Intelligence and Intuition.
Using this astronomical Porkulus Bill to Detour/Distract Americans from the fact that all this generation of Democrats want is to Defalcate the Power through Socialism- if they control all the Money; they control of all the Power.
Deflating, Diminishing, Demolishing and Destroying Sarah Palin and her family served as a Decoy to Distract Voters from seeing the criminals, inexperience, and dangerous political & religious associations, in the background of the Democratic candidate.
By using Double Standards in allowing Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton and Jeremiah Wright to openly promote bigotry and prejudice, while using separation of church and state to aggressively silence all Christians and remove their values from our culture. The disastrous results of the Porkulus Bill to 'stimulate' the economy instead of driving us into deep debt, the failure of his Health Care bill because it would drive us into unrecoverable debt, these were not as heinous as what Obama's predecessors allegedly did to few enemies of this country... another double standard.
Through Devious tactics to Deceive the public, we still don't know all of Obama’s background, we don't know where his Loyalties lie, we have never seen his Birth Certificate, etc. His paranoia enabled him to set up a Spy Network, where common every day people could report any one speaking against his Healthcare bill, and he decieved folks by saying he was trying to 'prevent' misinformation. He tried to deceive the public into thinking that his National Healthcare Insurance would: improve healthcare, lower costs, and enable everyone to receive healthcare. The simple Numbers completely refute any of these deceptions.
Obama Defalcated power by a government style corporate take over of GM, & the Banking Industry AND creating an Interrogation Unit that would report directly to him. He is attempting to defalcate even more power by removing all interrogation from the CIA and put that 'power' under his own personal Interrogation Unit. His Health Care bill was another attempt to Defalcate power by hiding Socialized Healthcare under the guise of a National Health Insurance. The one thing that truly bothers us the most: he set up a spy network for common every day folks to report anyone speaking against him (Health Care Facts Report Center), this is a way for him to defalcate power over our 2nd Amendment rights to free speech.
As Ann Coulter says in the blurb of her new book, Guilty:
Liberals always have the to be the victims, particularly when they are oppressing others. (Usurp Defense from others by instigating fights.) Modern victims aren't victims because of what they have suffered; they are victims of convenience for the Left...(Delusions, Distractions, Decoys). Playing the game of He Who Is Offended First Wins, the key to any political argument is to pretend to be insulted and register operatic anger. (Double Standards, Devious, Diminish, Destroy, Demolish). Liberals are the masters of finger-wagging indignation. (Deflect, Decoy, Distractions, Detour). They will wail about some perceived slight to a sacred feeling of theirs, frightening people who have never before witnessed the liberal's capacity to invoke synthetic outrage. (Double Standard, Dodge, Distract, Decoy, Detour, Diminish, Demolish, Destroy). Distracted by the crocodile tears of the liberal, Americans don't notice that these fake victims are attacking, advancing, and creating genuine victims. (Normals must Disengage to prevent further Damage.)
Bill O’Rielly and Laura Ingrham have both noted the incessant and malicious attacks on their persons and beliefs, from Democrats. (Deflate, Destroy, Diminish, Demolish, instigating Defensive Situations)
Recently, Ali Sina has used Dr. Vaknin’s research on NPD and noticed a strong resemblance to the rise of B.H. Obama and how he successfully created a Cult of Personality. He compared the rise of Obama to that of previous tyrant dictators such as Hitler, Stalin and Khomeni. The comparisons are NOT based on any political ideology, but instead focus on the manifestations of NPD that all of these tyrants exhibited, especially Barack Obama.
Understanding Obama: The Making of a Fuehrer
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